Well, here it is, 3 years from my wife's diagnosis.
As with previous updates, I need to start by thanking everyone here for their dedication and compassion for all who pass through this site during their cancer journey. In the emotionally rocky path of dealing with cancer, it is indeed a blessing to have place where you can get clear and focused information from people who care so much about those affected. I remain deeply grateful to all of you.
3 years ago, as I first started to read up on Stage 4 NSCLC, I was afraid my wife might not even make it this long. Despite the persistent call that in many ways every cancer and every patient is unique, the statistics were still there, and so was the fear. Now we are in that odd place where everything seems stable and good for the moment, but the cancer is still lurking around the corner. Gemzar seems to be holding things at bay for the moment (next CT scan is next week, always apprehension w/each new CT, so keep your keyboard fingers crossed) and my wife is feeling really good (a bit of headaches and aches for a couple days after each treatment, but nothing like the Carbo). My wife has amazing strength and energy, and just completed being a co-chair for a huge fundraising Gala at our synagogue, and continues her 2x a week ESL tutoring for adults. We both continue being in a community chorus.
So, for those keeping score, we are basically at treatment line 5; 3 effective lines of treatment and 2 ineffective ones; no apparent new metastases for number of months. During these 3 years our son graduated college, our daughter got engaged and married, we've gone to Israel, the Galapagos and Quebec and taken a number of small trips to LA, Toronto and Denver. The time has also included my father's death 2 years ago, and an unfortunate falling out with a section of my family (almost exactly 1 year ago) - one of those where you have to graph who is speaking to who.
Your site remains a bright spot in a world of fog and fear.