Bone metastases and treatment - 1289453

Hello,
Less than a year ago, I was diagnosed with stage 4 adenocarcinoma. I am in my early 40s and a never-smoker. I had one primary tumor in my lung and a large tumor in my hipbone, the pain of which led to my cancer diagnosis. Five months after treating the hipbone tumor, a previously undetected tumor began bothering me elsewhere in my hipbone and was also radiated. I've had some residual pain since then at both sites. I recently learned that there is a spot on two of my vertebrae that was identified at my initial diagnosis almost a year ago and grew between my last two scans. The oncologist told me she wasn't going to do anything since it "wasn't bothering" me. I actually now suspect that what I was reporting as residual pain from the previous tumors was from the new spot, but I was only recently made aware of it. Shortly thereafter, the pain increased, I developed excruciating back pain and couldn't bend. Now, I've done radiation but am told to expect that it will likely only reduce my pain level 50-75%. I guess I'm wondering what the rationale was for leaving the spot, allowing it to grow to the point that it caused me so much pain that I may now have to deal with long term, as well as increase risk for fracture. I plan on talking to the doctor about it at my next appointment but am wondering what others think. Thanks so much.