Mom's cancer is back - 1267277

clemclem44
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After a glorius year on treatment break mom's scan shows 2 spots on her liver. She began Alimta again on the 14th and it's not agreeing with her. It was a breeze when she was on her maintenance therapy but this time around it's made her nauseous and loose her appetite. I'm concerned she'd going to dip below 100lbs which was a worry at the beginning of her diagnosis. she was finally eating little bites of food yesterday and today but prior to this was only drinking ginger ale and having frequent episodes of vomiting or wretching

On top of this her bones are fragile and she's got a second compression fracture in one of her vertebrae below her shoulder blades. This is causing significant pain.

I'm starting to really worry that very soon she won't be able to tolerate the chemo at all. What kinds of options does she have for home health nurses etc? She's on morphine based pain pills for her back pain and she seems to have to be asked all the time to eat something so she'snot been left alone much. My brother moved in with them to help but he and my dad have full time jobs and I'm in another state.

I guess I'm not fully sure what we can or should be doing. I'm terrified that this has the ability to decline quickly.

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JimC
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Hi Carrie,

I'm sorry to hear about your mom's troubles, knowing how difficult it is for you as well.

If it is the specific chemo (alimta) that is causing her nausea and poor appetite, her doctor may suggest a switch to something else. About the only way to know if it's the alimta is to take a break from it and see if her symptoms improve. If she's not already doing it, she may want to take her anti-nausea medication on a schedule rather than when she begins to feel nauseous. It's easier to prevent than to get rid of nausea.

As far as her back pain, has she been diagnosed or scanned for bone mets, and if so have they been radiated? Radiation can often provide relatively quick relief from pain.

Some home health resources may be available through her insurance; you'd have to check to find out what services are reimbursed. There may also be volunteer programs available. Perhaps her cancer center can direct you to such programs.

Good luck,

JimC
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clemclem44
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She's been over a year since she last has Alimta and her very last maintenance treatment did leave her nauseous. I thought she'd have smooth sailing again as they decided now that it's back and in her liver that they would return to Alimta since it seemed effective at keeping the cancer at bay.

She was reported to have tumors up and down her spine but he's yet to say it was mets to the bone, though after I read something today I wondered the same thing. He was only suggesting that the cancer went to her liver (4 months after her last scan). I don't think she has bone mets but I do know she has had really bad bone density tests and osteoporosis. So the fracture (it's her second one in a matter of years) seems pretty possible.

I'll find out about her nausea meds to find out what the scoop was. I wasn't able to be with her on her first treatment last week. Her next one is the day after Christmas. I'll know more after this second round.

I think she's got an upset stomach and no appetite and this worries me because she skin and bones already.

Just feel like this can go from bad to worse awfully quick. She breezed through chemo last time and her months of maintenance therapy so any kind of reaction is new and bothersome.

is there some specific foods (other than ensure) that are good for this situation? I also am not sure if her symptoms are from the liver tumors or not either. She just seems so fragile and weak.

My mother in law has SCLC and she had real issues with anemia and had to of her treatments postponed due to this. She is 10 times more stout and healthy than my mom is now.

I think they will do radiation if/when it's necessary. But the thought is that her lung cancer being the non-smoker type may have been the result of her many rounds of radiation. I know it was not a treatment option for her and that they only would consider it for palliative care. I assume we're not there yet.

cards7up
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If she has compression fractures, I'd ask about doing vertebroplasty. They insert a spinal glue into the fracture. For my first chemo I had carbo/alimta. Then I had a recurrence 2.5 years later and did the same combo. By my 3rd infusion, I had a allergic reaction and can't use it again. I agree with talking with onc and trying a switch. Was her tissue tested for mutations this time around? Take care, Judy

JimC
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As Judy suggested, perhaps a consultation with an orthopedic surgeon might be in order, to see if there are any interventions which might help her.

As far as diet, products such as Ensure and Boost can help provide calories. In general when appetite is low it is good to experiment with different kinds of food to see if there is something which seems appealing. In the past, GRACE members have reported that some food choices that seem quite unusual have worked well in a particular case, so don't be afraid to experiment. If a fast-food cheeseburger sounds good for breakfast, go with it. Although you'd like her to eat a well-balanced diet, at times you just need to find something to give her some calories.

Good luck.

JimC
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clemclem44
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Thanks. Her Dr. did suggest the vertebroplasty and I think they are waiting for someone to verify based on her scans that this is possible or a good call. I do hope we can resolve this as it has been a major source of pain and makes it really hard to tell what is causing what.

Her primary tumor was tested and did not have mutations. She did carbo/alimta and seemed fine with that and then did alimta for what feels like 6 months before a treatment break.

When do you know you're allergic to it?

I also am sure that I'm just not used to her having any side effects so any are hard to watch. But my primary fear is that if she doesn't eat and dips under 100 pounds then I am pretty sure they won't let her have an infusion, though that circumstance came up when she was originally staged at 2A and I suppose this is different now that it's stage 4.

At any rate I will ask about her nausea pills and I will do more research about good foods during chemo. She is home alone most of the day when my brother and dad are at work. If she's not offered food she doesn't really go get something for herself. Maybe we put a mini fridge next to her?

I appreciate the responses, especially when I'm all over the place right now. I can't get a good thought out it seems. I do think I need to call the Dr. and ask for a better understanding of her current tumor locations and double check that it isn't in her spine but just next to her spine and get a better understanding about her nutrition. I also want to know what the delay is on the plan for the vertebroplasty.

Thanks everyone.

catdander
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Usually reactions happen with a platinum like carboplatin or cisplatin and during infusion so the chemo staff keep a close eye out for that and react quickly.

Anything you think might help for eating is a good idea. The exception is trying to force it on a person, we've had those who say that just makes them feel guilty. It's funny Jim's example was fast food because that's what my husband would eat. Today we stay pretty far away from those places but at one time they were important. I like to mention bacon for those who ask, it's an item that seemed to help tremendously and I put it in everything, even cooked with bacon grease. Magace helps for some as well.

Too I just wanted to second what Jim said about nausea meds being taken on a schedule and not waiting to get sick.

I hope your mom feels better soon,
Janine

JimC
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Here's something Dr. West wrote about chemo and appetite:

"It's quite comment for people to have taste changes that lead them to like foods that they previously didn't favor and develop less of a taste for some of their previously favored foods. I don't see any clear pattern to their new likes and dislikes. Many people receiving chemo describe a metallic taste or a salty taste, so we often suggest blander foods. Particularly for people having problems with nausea, it's possible to develop a "conditioned taste aversion" from an association of nausea with a food someone happened to be consuming at the time. That tends to happen less with familiar, blander foods, so we often recommend those in the days after chemotherapy.

Otherwise the so-called BRATS diet is a conservative one to help people with a delicate stomach: that stands for bananas, rice, applesauce, toast, saltines.

Finally, nutritional supplements like Boost or Ensure are a great source of nutrition in a small volume, so a fine choice for people with a marginal appetite. Many people feel that a lot of the flavors of the drinks taste chalky. One option is to use trial and error to find brands and flavors that are more palatable than others. Another option is to add crushed ice to the supplement to make it into a frappe, which some people find makes it more palatable." - http://cancergrace.org/forums/index.php?topic=1599.msg9357#msg9357

There are additional suggestions in the other posts in that thread.

JimC
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clemclem44
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I never thought to add ice to her ensure. We've tried to offer her smoothies with yogurt and fruit and she wasn't turning her nose up at them but wondered about adding the ensure to them so that she got a boost.

In the days after chemo is it ok or harmful if all she can stomach is liquids - even if it's not ensure?

I haven't called to check on her today but hope that this is now getting better. And there would be no limits to what we'd offer her to eat. If she want's pizza then by all means. Ice cream was sometimes a good trick too.

I think I'm mostly in a panic because the liver tumors are new and she had such an easy go for her first line treatment and her second line treatment. Like she wasn't really on chemo, so the realities were not really faced. I guess I'm just facing them now.

Is the right plan to only be using Alimta? Would there ever be a reason to add the platinum based meds?

JimC
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Hi Carrie,

There's no problem with liquids only if that's all that seems palatable. If you can provide some nutrients that way with ensure or boost or a milkshake or whatever, all the better. Some times the effects of nausea can lead to dehydration, so fluid intake can be important.

Although each patient's treatment plan can be individualized, usually the platinum combination is only used as first-line chemo. Platinum drugs depress bone marrow function, and their continued use can be detrimental to blood counts, making further chemo difficult or impossible.

JimC
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clemclem44
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Thanks for that Jim. I was relieved that she was only put back on Alimta but I guess it does make sense that another round with platinum based meds would not be good.

Thankfully my mom cannot go anywhere without a water bottle. This has not always protected her from dehydration in the past but thankfully her desire for water is there. I was thankful that ginger ale seems to be something she loves, at least she can get a little sugar into her system.

All good things and such a huge help.

I can't tell you how much I appreciate your advice.

And lastly, I should mention that she has been using marijuana latley. She quit smoking cigarettes which I'm thankful for but I have mixed emotions about her smoking anything even if it "helps'. Not officially having an opinion on the use of it (mostly because I'm not a fan) and it's illegal.

Does this use have more negative consequences than any that may (or may not) be positive?

I think this has helped her or at least I'm being told by my dad and brother that it does but them being recreational users of it (and I'm not) makes me wonder if it's self serving for them to have her using it too. My dad and brother have both made dissapointing decisions as it relates to this habit and I'm weary. But if there is anything that can make her more comfortable then I'd fully support it. Just wondering what others may think or have experienced?

I have no idea if this topic has been broached here - hopefully it's ok.

JimC
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Hi Carrie,

This has been discussed here, so not a problem at all. There is evidence that it or it's components can help with nausea and appetite. You can read a detailed discussion here:

JimC
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catdander
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I think this subject is fine and many people have unfavorable effects though many swear by it's ability to calm and manage pain. There are other methods of ingesting cannabis such as cooking with it or oils made from it. There are vaporizing devices such as vapor brothers who make one in the US and is touted to be free of harmful fumes from the heating element. Smoking can cause immediate problems such as cough, congestion and general irritation to the lungs though the amount one smokes I’m sure plays a big part.

Ginger is used to combat nausea though it doesn’t hold a candle to the prescription nausea meds I did use it in my cooking during the 3 or so days after chemo infusions for my husband.

Like Jim said trial and error is the only way to find the things someone will have an appetite for. Unfortunately I gained a lot of weight during this time but my husband also maintained above 100lbs if just barely.

After the steriods wear off (the day following infusion) it’s possible that all your mom will accept is fluids and ensures plus are an easy go to.

Below is a link to a blog post on 2nd and so one lines treatments, http://cancergrace.org/lung/2010/10/04/lung-cancer-faq-2nd-line-nsclc-o…
and one on treating nausea, http://cancergrace.org/cancer-treatments/2009/05/19/cinv/

I hope your mom does better once everyone learns the tricks of the tread so to speak. ;)

Much hope for the upcoming infusions,
Janine

clemclem44
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off topic - but can you see my signature line with the stats? I can't in the replies here and I thought I could see it in a thread a couple of years ago. Wanted to have the pertinent info on my mom's stats for the sake of seeking your opinions on the situation.

cards7up
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I've not heard of marijuana helping with pain but with appetite, nausea and insomnia. There are prescriptions for appetite enhancers-marinol is one and I think it's a synthetic cannabidiol and would be legal.
Take care, Judy

shy one
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I'm sorry your mom is suffering again, and that you're not living near her. I had that experience when my mom had kidney cancer, and I know how frustrating it is. Is it possible for you to participate in any family conferences with her doctor via Skype? Ask the most computer-literate person you know to help you set it up, if you need to. You may get a lot more up-to-date information on her condition, and your contributions to her care may be more timely and therefore more satisfying.
When my nausea was at its worst, I was told to keep hydrated with what tasted to me like a sickly sweet sports drink, and it made my nausea worse. I finally settled on a couple of cans a day of low-sodium V-8, because I'm not particularly fond of sweets, and found that very satisfying. (This was not all the liquid I got, just a satisfying boost.)
Good luck, and know that you, your mom, and the rest of your family all have all of our best wishes.

clemclem44
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thanks SoCal - I've managed to be on speaker phone for every one of her post PET scan result appointments.

Her initial appointment I was there in person with all my questions about tumor mutation testing etc and had done my research. I felt totally prepared. Now I don't, mostly because this (which is oddly like childbirth) is so individual and unpredictable. There are clearly stages, but the amount of time and even discomfort one spends on them varies so widely.

My mom isn't and hasn't been well for the better part of the last 20 years. Cancer, alcoholism, prescription pain pill abuse, depression, psychological issues to name a few. But here she is, this fragile, brittle person whom I love so much but have guarded myself against for so long...

I think my concern here is selfish, because I don't want to find out I've neglected to do something I should have.

I just feel so much panic around this situation...

To make matters worse I learned last year that I carry the BRCA 2 mutation (so does mom though discovered after I finally tested because her Dr didn't see the need to test mom initially - she tested positive after I found the mutation and I insisted she get her ovaries removed STAT - and that was done this summer).

So in September of 2013 i had my ovaries and tubes removed - they discovered a cel(age 38 - out from work for 7 days). In January of this year I had a prophylactic double mastectomy with immediate DIEP flap reconstruction - out of work for 7 weeks, and just had phase 2 surgery to progress the reconstruction in July - out 10 days, and finally have surgery scheduled in Dec. for what I hope to be the final stage and will be out for 10 more days..

I've missed so much work. I'm the breadwinner for my family. FMLA won't pay me for time with my mom. I want to be with her so much....

This just all sucks!!

shy one
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I think that is one of the things that GRACE is here for--as a place you can vent your fears and frustrations, where others have been through similar situations, where sometimes there is useful advice, and where you can be reassured that whatever your motivation, you are doing all that you can and should. We all function on the information we have at the time, and can you imagine how the doctors must feel when a new mutation is discovered after a number of patients have been lost for want of a targeted treatment being developed in time? They would be useless if they wasted time on what might have happened had they known more or done more, and you will you. The fact that you are there for your mother, today, in her current situation, is the most important gift you can give her. Carry on, Carrie! I'm thinking of you.
Nan

catdander
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I agree with Nan and there's no judgement here. We want the best for our ourselves and loved ones so we come to Grace in search of not just the new and improved but for the hundreds of tiny bits of information that an appointment with an oncologist can't provide. And support, lots of good hearted support.

Your signature must have been lost somehow so you'll need to redo.
Write it in a document that can be saved in case it happens again then copy and paste it in your Grace profile (not the wordpress profile).
Access your Grace profile by clicking on you avatar pic or user name in one of your posts, click "(Edit Bio & Forum Signature)" and paste signature in signature box and save.

Janine

clemclem44
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thank you Janine!
I think I got it added properly now.

Thanks to everyone for your support.

ocean
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Hi Carrie,

I just wanted to say that you aren't alone. Like you - I don't live near to my dad (recently dx with lung cancer) - and am finding it really hard not being there. Having potential health issues yourself can't be helping. It does all suck!! I think it is great that you have managed to be on speaker phone for appts, it sounds like you are doing a lot to keep involved and help your mum. Thinking of you.

Dr West
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Carrie,

I'm sorry there's so much going on, and sorry I missed the thread until today. It's certainly concerning that her performance status is so marginal and that she's losing weight. It's hard to know whether this is because of the underlying cancer or the treatment, but if she got much worse just after chemo and then improves again in the next 2 weeks, you'll know it's from the treatment. This also implies that she can do better by making an adjustment (perhaps another agent or dose reduction). Obviously, if her functional status doesn't improve over the next few weeks, it will be difficult to threat the needle and treat her further.

As far as eating goes, it's completely reasonable to try everything from a liquid diet, perhaps supplemented with Boost or Ensure (and perhaps made into a frappe with crushed ice to cut the medicine-like taste that people often find objectionable), to Megace or medicinal marijuana, which some patients do find helpful (and others also find at least moderately helpful to manage pain). That said, I do agree that, coming from a place where medical marijuana is legal, I do think it's very common to see the enthusiasm about marijuana be about 90% based on recreational interest and medicine only providing a pretense.

Finally, I agree that it's definitely difficult to distinguish between possible metastatic disease vs. garden variety (non-cancer related) vertebral collapse from osteoporosis, or sometimes some other degenerative but benign cause of back pain. Along with MRI imaging, an opinion from a thoughtful orthopedic surgeon could be very helpful.

Good luck.
-Dr. West