Dad has been steadily declining. He sleeps 18-20+ hours a day, is barely eating, is very unsteady on his feet, always complains of pain, headache, and nausea and is generally just existing. We have been in contact with hospice and he is ready to enroll but his oncologist will NOT sign off on the paperwork. He had us bring him in yesterdsy to evaluate him. They gave him IV fluids and IV nausea medication and sent us home with a different med for nausea and 10 mg oxycodone.
The palliative care/pain management person talked to dad and he indicated he wanted to stop chemo but he said, "I'm not a dr., I don't know if it's working or not". Well, his scans are "stable" and his bloodwork is "good". So we told the palliative care people we wanted hospice because regardless of what the scans say, my dad is NOT stable. They just called me to tell me that the dr. wants us to give him the new meds for 2 weeks then come to see him on the 29th.
I am so upset. Why is he denying him hospice care when we have requested it??? I know that his PCP will sign off on it, but I am worried that if dad does do good and wants to start chemo again, that we will have burned our bridges. I read on here what the dying process is, and it seems to me that my dad is there.
Does it sound like I'm pushing him into hospice, as his dr. has indicated? I just do not know what to do.
Thanks for listening. :(