Bone mets and enlarged lymph node 5 years later - 1266924

Good morning all. My question is: if you knew then what you know now, what question do you wish you would have asked during your second opinion visit?

My 88 year old mom was Dx with stage 1a nsclc adenocarcinoma in 2002 and again in 2009. Both times she had a lobectomy performed in her right lung at Sloan Kettering . The tissue from 2009 showed a k-Ras mutation. No chemo or radiation after either surgery and she was NED up until last month. Her last lung CT scan was in May 2014 and it was clear

After complaining of recurring leg pain and back pain which was getting worse she had cat scans, a MRI and a pet scan.

1. A biopsy confirmed a single met in her left hip.
2.The MRI confirmed a single met of 1.3 cm to T8 in her spine
3. The pet scan confirmed a 2.5cm enlarged lymph node in her right lung. (No biopsy as it was too close to a vein).

Her brain and liver and other soft tissue are clear.

Aside from this she is a very active 88 year old and is a holocaust survivor and a fighter

We are heading back to Sloan Kettering for a 2d opinion as to treatment (she now lives out of state)

I am putting together my obvious list of questions as to the pros/cons of radiation, chemo, palliative care. I am trying to be as thorough as possible

With the benefit of hindsight and experience is there is there something you wish you would have asked during your second opinion visit that others might find helpful?

Thank you and God bless everyone on this board.

Kmc