Due to her advanced age/condition (bladder cancer metastasized to lung and pancreas) family is ambivalent about telling mother of her diagnosis. Doctor is suggesting only symptom care.
She is not asking any specific questions of why she had a bladder procedure to remove the tumors. This was successful in part. We would like to be completely open but we are afraid she will get into a depression and live the rest of her days with anxiety and fear.
In your experience what are the benefits and negative sides of telling a frail, deaf nonagenarian woman of her health problems?
Thanks for your answer!