My husband has joined the angels in heaven - 1255521

apra
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With a heavy heart I am informing you all that my husband Prakash Paira left us for his heavenly abode on 5th April 2013 at 5:00pm.

He was suffering from distension, pain the abdomen and inability to eat because of feeling of fullness. Two litres of metastatic ascitic fluid had been tapped just a week back and for one or two days he was able to eat but then went back to the same position. We thought maybe the fluid had re-accumulated. But an ultra sound sowed that there was no fluid. The doctor even said maybe the Taxotere is working. We were happy.

I went to s room and saw that he was having an episode of breathlessness, they were giving him nebuliser with oxygen. Then he said he felt nauseaus so I tod him to just regurgitate into my hands on some paper towels, he regurgitated a greenish bile from his mouth and then the same liquid flowed out of his mouth and he sudden lifted his head and died.

The end came swiftly and unexpectedly. I am happy that he did not have to go through the long drawn out process of hospice etc.

Thank you all for your continued support during tis journey.

Nini (Apra)

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Reply # - April 9, 2013, 08:01 AM

catdander
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Oh Apra I am so so sorry. You were such a wonderful and tireless advocate for Prakash and I know he held your love and support dearest. I'm glad you were with him when he passed.
Nini, Thank you for letting us know. If you need anything you know where we are. I know it sounds odd but I'll miss you. Let others tend to you and don't hesitate to ask for what you need.
With love and sympathy,
Janine

Reply # - April 9, 2013, 08:58 AM

JimC
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Nini,

I am so very sorry to hear of your dear husband's passing. You were his faithful advocate to the end; it was clear to me and everyone here at GRACE how much you loved him. As Janine said, please let your friends and family support you. My thoughts will be with you for peace and comfort.

JimC

Reply # - April 9, 2013, 12:37 PM

mikem
Posts: 69

Apra,

I am really sorry he is gone. You have been a tireless advocate and I always marveled at your pusuit of information to help him. You went down many paths I would have never thought of and in the process I am sure you gave others on these boards ideas for their own situations. Please take care. -- mikem

Reply # - April 9, 2013, 06:35 PM

chebird
Posts: 104

Nini,

I am so, so sorry :( As you know, your dear Prakash is now in paradise face-to-face with our Savior.

I don't blame you one bit to want to leave cancerworld right now. May God carry you in His arms during this season of sadness. Please let me know how you are doing.

You are always in my prayers, dear sister.

Holly

Reply # - April 9, 2013, 08:52 PM

marisa93
Posts: 215

Nini,

I am so very sorry for the loss of your dear Prakash. I think we all understand your need to "run away from the world of cancer" but know we are always thinking of you and are here if/when you need anything. I hope you find peace and comfort in the days ahead from your memories of Prakash.

(((hugs))),
Lisa

Reply # - April 9, 2013, 09:24 PM

laya d.
Posts: 714

Oh Our Dear Nini - - I am so very sorry to read this terrible news. I am just heartbroken for you and your children. I hate cancer.

I am holding all of you, including Prakash, very very very close.

With a heavy and broken heart,
Laya

Reply # - April 10, 2013, 10:35 AM

apra
Posts: 142

JimC, Marissa, Chebird (Holly), Mikem, Dr. West, Laya, CertainSpring,

Thank you for your kind words. My husband's funeral coverage is available at the link below, i hope my posting this link is ok. God gave him so much honour on his last journey.

He died from massive UGI bleeding and cardiac respiratory arrest. I was not alone. I was surrounded by doctors and nurses.

http://www.nagalandpost.com/channelnews/state/StateNews.aspx?news=TkVXU…

Nini

Reply # - April 11, 2013, 11:52 AM

apra
Posts: 142

Dr. West, Laya,

Thank you for taking the trouble to see the link. Yes, he was a wonderful man. We will miss him. We will always be grateful to CancerGrace for holding our hands through this journey. Ofcourse there are some what ifs, but no point going through that now.

God bless you

Nini

Reply # - April 11, 2013, 01:08 PM

catdander
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Hi Apra, just wanted to let you know that I'm sure there are many who have read about your dear husband, as have I. He sounds like he made a great impact on his community.
Nini, I'm glad to hear your family is close, I know you will all allow and help one another move through the grief.
Janine
I'm not sure how you pronounce your name but had to say my nephew called me ne ne (long e sound) that caught on throughout my family when I was a teen.

Reply # - April 11, 2013, 01:29 PM

marisa93
Posts: 215

Nini,

Thank you for sharing the link. Prakash sounds like he was just a wonderful man. Many (((hugs))) to you! Your children and grandchildren will always keep his spirit alive for you. Take care of each other. It is completely normal to have the what its but important not to let them consume you and it sounds like you know that. Thinking of you......

Lisa

Reply # - April 13, 2013, 11:35 AM

apra
Posts: 142

Thank you Janine, Marisa and Aunttootsie,

Janine, yes, my name is pronounced with a long e sound, so I'm sure our names were similar. In my language it means double happiness.

Prakash was a wonderful man. I am so happy God allowed me to meet and marry him. We have some heartaches because we never had a bucket list with him. So I advise everyone don't be afraid of hard talks about last wishes, and don't be afraid and be in denial if a doctor says the end s nearing. We were unable to accept it so we regret that we did not have some deep talks with him.

Thank you all once again.

Nini

Reply # - April 21, 2013, 09:29 PM

heartspy
Posts: 37

Dearest Nini - I offer you hugs filled with sympathy and support. Your husband's life meant something to so many, mostly you, and what a wonderful man. I cried reading your link with admiration for him and sadness for you and your beautiful family.
My husband, Amos, also just left his body for heavenly flight on 4/17/13. My only relief is that he no longer suffers. At his memorial service, one of the speakers said, "Amos made me want to be a better man" and the entire crowd broke out applauding in agreement. It was surreal and comforting. I am honored to be his wife and I will continue to honor him, as his widow. Love is stronger than death.
Please know, your presence on Grace has always been comforting to me.
Many prayers and continued support. - Megan

Reply # - April 22, 2013, 02:44 AM

apra
Posts: 142

Dear Dear Megan,

I am so sorry for your loss. Amos must have been a wonderful man. 43 years is way too young, but the Bible says when we are absent in the body, we are present with the Lord. Our husbands are present with the Lord now. Amos, a life that inspired others to be better persons. Wow, what more can we ask. Such should be the goal of everyone who comes to planet earth. You are blessed to have walked with this man.

On the night my husband left for heaven, as my daughter struggled to come to terms with the fact her daddy was no more, God led her to Psalm 21:2-6. '...... He asked life of thee and you gave it to him, length of days forevermore .... You gave him a crown of pure gold...'

These verses comforted her so much, she was able to sleep and her splitting headache was gone.

Megan, God is good. He will be with us as we go through the coming years holding close to our hearts the memory of our wonderful husbands and fathers. My nephew spoke at his funeral and said as a father, his uncle, my husband was unparalleled. Such wonderful tributes humbles us. Thank you for reading the link. Keep in touch. My email address is ninisekhose@yahoo.com.

Nini

Reply # - June 12, 2013, 11:19 PM

bh
Posts: 66

Dear Nini, so so sorry to hear about your husband's passing. I have no words of comfort to offer except pray that the good Lord carries you on his shoulders in this time of grief. My heartfelt condolences to you and dear family.

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